Marriage is difficult. Making a marriage successful is way more difficult. Any human relationship that requires communication, understanding, sensitive matters like opinion, money, time exchange is difficult to build up and can be destroyed within just a single blink. And by that definition, I did not only mean marriage. It could be friendship, it could be any bond one could have in their lives. There is a drastic change in this marriage paradigm now. People now justify every step they leave before taking such a big decision. At least longer before they contemplate and regret the mistakes. And I wholeheartedly appreciate their actions. But not so long ago, in marriage there remained a huge gap to bridge. I am not pointing at all the marriages and I am no expert at human understanding or interaction as well.
In the first line, I said to make a marriage successful is way more difficult. Well, now the first question comes, what do I mean by a "successful marriage"? What do we/people or even in some context society mean by a successful marriage? For how long a marriage needs to flaunt its beautiful heavenly presence till we consider it as a dead-end? Before I start I want to say I never read any books or articles or neither I am standing solid on my opinion because maybe some years later, my thoughts could change but I am now writing because I have been observing these things for some time. And I think writing about this will release my brain some space to think anything other than this. So yeah back to marriage! There are certain parameters before coining a marriage as a "successful marriage". Not talking about the whole world perspective, only from the context of a little South Asian country Bangladesh. Cause I have never stepped outside of it. People often say, "a couple can be happy living under a makeshift if only with the right person". Some say from the realist's viewpoint that "that's not true at all". In fact, there's a literary line about this too, "অভাব যখন দরজায় আসে ভালোবাসা তখন জানালা দিয়ে পালায়". Perspectives matter. In my opinion lines like "till death do us apart" is shit because who constituted that one has to be bound to a person of flesh and feeling for a lifetime. I am talking about both ends of this single line. Since we are used to be in monogamous relationships but there needs to be another fact to check. We also are human. No one should not be tied down by bad roots especially the rotten ones from the beginning. One shouldn't keep up with all the shits their partners do be it their wife or husband. As long as one can feel, understands, and think can respect their fellow partner congratulations. But the moment it feels unbearable there should not be any questions like WHY & WHAT & HOW. No interrogation.
Prolong repression of feelings, opinions that could not.... (incomplete write-ups)
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